i'm a loud, over-analyzing, emotional perfectionist! ;)

hey there!!  TGIF!! =D

the other day i stumbled upon a bloggy type personality test that's modeled after the original Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.  my results were suprising, because i have actually taken the true Myers-Briggs several years ago and had the same result!  usually these cheesey little online quizzywizzies aren't very accurate.  so, either this one's half way decent or i just got lucky! hehe!

if you know anything about the Myers-Briggs, you know its WAY more than a teenyboppery fun "who am i?" personality quiz.  when i took it, i learned a lot of very important things about myself and more than anything, it gave me the insight i needed to understand how other people in my life think and react in certain situations. 

so, here was my result from the quizzywizzy: 

 

You Are An ENFJ

The Giver You strive to maintain harmony in relationships, and usually succeed.  Articulate and enthusiastic, you are good at making personal connections.  Sometimes you idealize relationships too much - and end up being let down. You find the most energy and comfort in social situations ... where you shine. In love, you are very protective and supporting. However, you do need to "feel special" - and it's quite easy for you to get jealous. At work, you are a natural leader. You can help people discover their greatest potential.  You would make a good writer, human resources director, or psychologist. How you see yourself: Trusting, idealistic, and expressive When other people don't get you, they see you as: Bossy, inappropriate, and loud

 

so let's chat about this a bit!  i am Extroverted (surprise! LOL)...however, the MBTI says:

Everyone spends some time extraverting and some time introverting. Don’t confuse Introversion with shyness or reclusiveness. They are not related.

i like that. i thought it was very interesting!  "introverted" seems to carry a negative connotation (and maybe that's just more with us extroverts?), and i think its essential to embrace someone's way of getting inspiration and energy.  to me, that's one of the things that makes others so intriguing!  

then, the N stands for intuition.  this one makes me giggle...only because i now realize this is the part of my personality that is the strongest in my life right now.  it is, in fact, the very thing that creates stress in my little head! LOL!  

what it means is that i focus more on reading into (or shall we say...ANALYZING...particulary, OVER-analyzing? hehe!!) information instead of sensing it for what it is.  they give these examples that i think hit is smackdab on the money:

I solve problems by leaping between different ideas and possibilities.

Sometimes I think so much about new possibilities that I never look at how to make them a reality.

obviously something i need to balance out a little better!! ;)

then, i prefer Feeling.   before i go on, the MBTI wants us to make this distinction:

Don’t confuse Feeling with emotion. Everyone has emotions about the decisions they make.

this made me feel better, because sometimes i think i am too emotional.  i think most of it comes from the simple fact that my hormones are so out of whack right now and i lose my ability to be rational when i need to be.  (men, believe this!! LOL!)

the feeling aspect really focuses on having the need for harmony and balance in relationships, and essentially having a people-pleasing personality.  this obviously can be a detriment when i refuse to...er i mean when i fail to see the real (and sometimes unpleasant) truth about a situation or another person.  

i think sometimes this aspect of my personality is a nice compliment when i am in a group of otherwise less compassionate, less nurturing indivuals.  we need all sorts to make the world go round, right? RIGHT! 

then finally Judging.  i remember when i first took the MBTI i was like NOOOO! i dont want J!  i dont judge other people! ROTFL.  obviously that's not what it means...well, cause then that would be judging others! ;) 

really what judging refers to is how i need to have some structure in my life and in the way i make decisions.  i think it goes right along with the fact that i'm a virgo *hehe*  i like to make lists, normally i dont procrastinate, and i tend to be punctual and like to make plans ahead of time, etc... 

not that i dont like spontaneity tho, cause i do!  its just that i tend to resort to judging most of the time. 

so, to sum all this up, the Myers-Briggs paraphrases the ENFJ as:

ENFJ
Warm, empathetic, responsive, and responsible. Highly attuned to the emotions, needs, and motivations of others. Find potential in everyone, want to help others fulfill their potential. May act as catalysts for individual and group growth. Loyal, responsive to praise and criticism. Sociable, facilitate others in a group, and provide inspiring leadership.

so what does the quizzywizzy say you are?  oh, come on and do it and tell me what you got. LOL. (i COULD be really mean and tag this as a meme...but i wont!!! LOL.) and what are your thoughts about it?  have you ever taken the official MBTI?

i think its fun and SUPER important to take a plunge into understanding our own AND others' personalities better.  i mean, who doesnt want to be a happier camper? :D 

have fun!!!

~josey~