hello all my blog-lurking friends! hehe! ;)
i have to admit something. ever since i moved from Yahoo 360 i just havent felt "at home." when i start to write up an entry i just have this weerd feeling...no, not that somebody's watchin me...;) hmmm...maybe its cause on Yahoo everything was "cartoony" or nooby or unprofessional as compared to now "doing it all myself" (no offense Yahoo!) or something; i had a more laid-back attitude when posting there, because honestly, i didnt think anyone was reading it anyway *LOL* like i've said, my blog is basically a personal diary so when i write, i write as if its kindof a secret between me, myself, and me, ya know?
anyhoo, the last several months or so i'd had a tremendous increase in my site hits, so im thinkin hey--maybe i should do something more personal. so i did...but since publishing sillygolucky.com, i all the sudden feel like all the seasoned, popular bloggers out there are looking at my simple little site and being bored off their Herman Millers! in fact, i know this is true because my bounce rate is pretty high :( that sucks! so are my blog posts too long? is my layout ugly? do i need to add entertainment?? but but i dont want my site to look like everyone elses! *cries!* oh the pressure of being a baby blogger!!!!
so im sittin here thinkin to myself, self--why do you really want to blog? well, there's obviously the part of me that wants a following. i mean come on, i dont care what any blogger says--EVERYONE who blogs wants an audience!! we all want someone else to recognize what we think or enjoy. we want to crack ppl up, inspire them, help them or persuade them, and heck, some even want to offend them. LOL. whether you're a leader at heart or a follower, there's either a want to lead the flock or a desire to feel needed and accepted ;)
some folks want fame and webby popularity, and some folks just want to have a modestly-sized posse of peeps who share like interests. im definitely the latter. i've always had a reason for journaling and blogging--and that's to express myself when it comes to my weight loss journey and health. plus, im just a gabbybutt so its a way for me to talk without torturing anyone in person or spending all my cell minutes! *teehee* =D
well one of the thoughts that came thru my mind is that i'm not really into posting YouTube vids, tons of pix or articles about current events. i just dont have the patience to search them out! not that i wont EVER do it (cause now in fact since i mentioned it, i probably will. hehe. maybe.). i just want to blab and i am thinkin most people just find that unoriginal and BORRR-INNNNNG. :P i guess really, the life of a fairly sheltered, not too well-traveled, work-at-home-with-no-kids midwestern married woman isnt too glamorous! hehe!
then i think but wait, there's hope! well gosh, there's tons of blogs out there that are completely geared to helping you make your blogsite fresh, and special, and reader friendly! but to me, they all say the same thing :P write about things that engage your audience, promote commenting and participation, keep it simple, blahblahblah... hmmm, i guess i'll have to work on those. >:\ then they say, get involved in blogging communities and all that stuff. okay so i have--and it just gets me 2000 "friends" that say "thanks for stopping by my blog!" and who add me as a contact and i never hear from them again. well, good for them--but not for me!! *whine whine whine* LOL!!
but do those things really work? i guess i'll eventually find out. i find myself wanting to be picky on who i reciprocate adding as a contact--so if you are one of mine, then know its because i truly find you and your blog interesting, and i plan on checking in on you often! and when i post your link on my site, that's my way of showing others what kind of person i am and what i like. and 2nd--its a bonus for you if you get a few more hits. maybe i'm being too serious? LOL! do i just have a crappy attitude??? am i just too naive and i dont get the virtual world?? *scratches head*
*super long pause*potty break for the dog*make some green tea*turns up the thermostat a tad* (hey, im in WI remember!)
so okay, now i've got that settled. i want to blog because i want someone else to hear what i have to say, and to attract those with similar interests and lifestyles. i definitely dont want to be famous ;) kewl! so now, how in the heck to i FIND those ppl?? i have done WAYYYyyyy too much blog lurking in the last couple weeks, and i have felt so overwhelmed. *lol* i think i am just going to have to resort to my virgo instincts of following a precise, slowly-implemented, automatic, systematic, hydromatic... oh wait, um...okay i lost my train of thought now! *does the 'greased lightnin, go greased lightnin' moves* LOL!
ah well dangit anyhoo. *hahahah* i just need to keep doing what im doing, and if im happy just putting my random thoughts and daily struggles down on this gosh-durned blog, then that's what matters!! (suddenly i feel like stuart smalley!! ROTFL!) and so far, i feel sillygolucky reflects who i am--colorful and cheerful, a little lacking in the ways of the web ;), offering specifics instead of EVERYTHING...and heck, even the dorky kiwi clock is DEFINITELY me. HAHA! and of course the name! and maybe, just maybe if i get lucky someone else in the hugemongous world of blogging will find me and be inspired, laugh, and dangit just have a better day. deep down really, that's all i want.
okay, i feel tons better now!! thanks for reading ;) now get up and un-numb your numb-bum!!! LOL!!! im going to clean out the fridge.
ttys!
~josey~ :D
hey! i'm here! that was a great post! i totally know how you feel. my bounce rate is pretty high too and i always wonder, "what do they see so immediately that turns them off?" it's so weird. some of my posts are long, but some aren't. am i really that boring? plus, my stats were pretty high for a while and now they've dropped really low and i can't figure it out. i've stopped caring as much though. people who blog for an extended amount of time, and have an audience eventually get a big following so i'm not worried. i'm not going to stop blogging anytime soon because i love it so much. but i'm not going to spend so much time stressing out about it. i love to write, and i love to be read and i am, so that's good. thank you so much for the link from your site. after reading your post, i know what that means. so thanks a lot! hope you have a fab day!
ReplyDeletebtw, if you don't see me on your site very much, it's because i visit sites through my GoogleReader and i don't think it clicks through to show the sites that i've visited except for a little clickthru to your statcounter. anyway, just wanted you to know. cu
ReplyDeleteamy--you definitely have the right attitude :D its for sure not worth stressing over, but im glad im not the only one who thinks about this junk! hehe! i actually just started using GoogleReader the other day...so ditto if you dont see me, either *hehe* and you're welcome for the link--your blog is awesome!! enjoy your weekend! =)
ReplyDeleteThere way too many blogs of videos and cut and paste nonsense. Say something real in way that appeals to people.
ReplyDeleteThere doesn't seem to be a big global audience for What I Did Today type blogs, but if you write well, write from the heart, and follow just a few basic format guidelines, people will stay with you.
In my opinion. (My opinion hates internet acronyms, so it types things out longhand.)
brent, thanks so much for the input!! it means a lot coming from someone who has a blogsite i think rocks :D
ReplyDeletei agree with you about the "what i did today" theme...i suppose, too, part of the problem is the "weerd" feeling i've had since i've moved. i wanted to somewhat get away from that with the new "location," but i'm just not in the groove yet. hehe! and then again--maybe i wont...i may just go with the flow!
thanks again for your encouragement and advice. i do appreciate it. i'll be watching for the BIG BLOG WEEK at the ominous comma, too! ;)
~josey~ (: